dated a great guy for almost five months. all was great as far as i knew.he broke up with me.said it was all him but i still not sure what happened.would love to know. but he will not talk to me or go any where he sees that i might be.I am very much still in love with him.

Signed: liz

Dear Liz,

Sounds to me, you were dating a coward. A real man doesn't run away with their fears. They confront them. It's obvious by this persons actions that his true colors emerged. Consider yourself lucky you found out now and not 5 years from now. You may never know why he ran (most likely he doesn't know why, so how can he tell you?). Just hold your head high and say "He missed out on a good thing" and go on with your life. DO NOT GO BACK......all the warning signs are in your face!

And as far as being in love for almost 5 months........you are still in the lust stage!

"Biker" Abbie.

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I am 26 yrs old and this guy i am dating is 42 i have adored his bad boy image and his big belly and beautiful smile,,, well i truly think he is it and we were madly in love and enjoyed tons of rides on his bad to the bone harley. i fact he gave me my first ride at 13. and it was tauntingly innocent then. NOT LATER BY NO MEANS.. well we seem to have hit rocky grounds and i might add i truly start LOSING  incite  in my mind if i am even out away from him and i hear a harley I LOSE MY MIND UNTIL I GET BACK TO HIM TO SEE IF HE WANTS TO GO ...if i lose him he is the only one i have ever rode with or even feel comfortable with enough to ride. and for that matter of a fact i might be staying in a bad relationship wasting both of our time, but i do still love him and find him extremly attractive but it isn't what it used to be...
should i stay or should i go can we make our love like it used to be?

Signed: Cherrie thomas

Dear Cherrie,

Love is a funny thing.........it's a 50/50 deal. And if you even think for a second that you are in a bad relationship......you are. Sounds to me, you need a time out for yourself. Find out within, what you really want and go for it (it might take years to find that one out!). Insecurities..........we all have them.........I would start there first.

"Biker" Abbie 

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i married a patch holder of a m.c. club....he cheats on me, beats me, and wants me to support him. now i want a divorce only after 1 month of marriage. but i love riding and i love patch holders can you help me locate a nice guy?

Signed: angel (female)

Dear Angle.................welcome to BikerDate.com !!!!

"Biker" Abbie

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Hi there,

I am looking for a biker man in my area. I seem to find that everyone I am in contact with lives very far from me, and are not willing to make the meet. Can U give me some advice as to where I should be looking?

Signed: Chilered

Dear Chilered,

Special people take special time. Hopefully BikerDate can close the gap. Fill out our AutoFind and BikerDate will notify you when someone meets your requirements.

"Biker" Abbie

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my prob is that I`ve been with my old man for 6 year`s and I found out he was cheating ,I gave him a choice her or me and he picked me,but the prob is she keep`s calling and doing all sort of weird stuff,and I mean weird , she`s a wacko, and I keep on telling her to stop calling,but it dont work,how do you get ride of someone like that ?

Signed: redhead biker

Dear RedHead,

To start off.........you want to get rid of the wrong person.  Who is more "wacko"? The person who wants to be with a married man or the person who wants to be with her husband who cheats on her? There is also a little thing out there called AIDS!. He is taking YOUR LIFE in his hands and you are allowing it!

It's all about self-esteem!

"Biker" Abbie

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Signed: clarrise

Dear Clarrise,

I'm sorry..........I don't know anything about that club.  The only advise I can give on this is USE YOUR HEAD not your heart. The only important person here is YOU!  So protect yourself. Acknowledge your gut feelings!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

"Biker" Abbie

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I keep searching the ads for a biker who's ready to be with one woman who doesn't play games, cheat or lie.  All I keep finding are the jerks who still want to play.  I've had enough players.  I'm told I'm very good looking, have a killer smile and am a lot of fun.  So what am I doing wrong and why can't I find my special biker guy?

Signed: Babe

Dear Babe,

You are doing nothing wrong. Consider yourself lucky in this way............you have reached a point of growth in your life that you can spot the liars, the cheaters, the game players right away and realizing when you do find that someone special (and he will be at the same growth level) you will always appreciate them and never take them for granted as they would do the same towards you. Most people go from one dysfunctional relationship to another. It sounds to me you have grown passed that. It's hard.......just try to be patient.

"Biker" Abbie

 

Dear Abbie:

I live in OK-met a Harley guy from NV online a couple mes. ago, it rolled really fast, into talking online every night, phone 2X a week, something in the mail all the time, to "the L word". He wanted me to move there, marry him, etc...Suddenly it went from all this attention to 1 line emails. Missed phone calls, etc. I nailed him online the other night about "what's up?" I just want honsety, good, bad...whatever-LET ME KNOW. Said he was just doin' his own thing, lotta probs, just running wild. "Everyone needs space" Well, there's already 1500 mi between us! How much more "space" does someone need? Hasn't even been 2 mos. yet, I think I already know the answer on what I need to do, just need a 2nd opinion, can't believ I got myself into this...I wasn't lookin, he im'd ME. Now he's all wishy-washy. Doesn't even sign on anymore hardly. I told him @ the beginning, "If you meet someone who's "there"-really "there" I understand that, just please be honest. I think he has & not holding up his end. Says he'll come around..but time's wasting here. Ya know?
 
Signed: OK gal

Dear OK,

Fast is not L - love, it's L - lust.....................................................Think of yourself as one of the LUCKY ONES finding out the other persons true colors in such a short amount of time. Move on, move on, move on.......................the only one that will be wasting time is YOU!

"Biker" Abbie

I am 30, have never been married and I don't have any children. I am a very honest fun loving person, but I can't seem to meet the right man for me.  I am very attracted to the "biker" image, but I don't know where to find a decent honest man that doesn't play games and is not attached. I am attractive and very independent.  Do you think this scares off men?

Signed: Angel

Dear Angle,

You sound like a rare catch........................and also what you are looking for.  A person for whom you are searching for is hard to find in any group. Be patient. As the saying goes............It will happen when you least expect it!

"Biker" Abbie

 

Dear Abbie:

I have met the love of my life. He is everything I ever wanted...there is one little minor problem though, he rides a Honda (Hawk) sportbike....how do I go by to convert him into "the one and only bike to ride" ?

Signed: rebellgirl

Dear Rebellgirl,

He rides a WHAT????  A WHAT??!!!???  I'm so sorry......but that is WAY past my expertise........I recommend he seeks PROFESSIONAL HELP!

"Biker" Abbie

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